You can find a list of eleven things here.  Well, ten things in addition to money. They always want something from the target and they will be what the target wants until they get bored or the target stops supplying what they want. My psychopath wanted money, housing, services, and control.

My psychopath wanted money, or rather what money could buy, like electronics (large and small), a nice car, licensed sportswear, or anything that resembled what rich people have. He wanted someplace to live that wasn’t his parents’ house. He wanted to be fed and entertained and praised and coddled. He wanted to make decisions. He wanted to be in charge.

What didn’t he want? He didn’t want to work. He didn’t want a partnership. He didn’t want to contribute half of anything once we were engaged. He didn’t want responsibility.  He didn’t want to participate in family activities unless there was food, and he didn’t want drama unless he was the center of it. He didn’t want criticism or input.

What did I want? A partner, someone with whom I could share my life. I wanted the man he pretended to be in the beginning – kind, loving, considerate, intelligent, dependable, committed, honest, and hard-working. He turned out to be quite the opposite. He turned out to be someone I would have avoided if he had been himself from the beginning.